There’s been better days. Diary entry: Thursday 20th July.

I've been dealing with a headache for around 4 days now. It seems to change in intensity throughout the day, going from what I'd call mild to intense and sometimes it's just a pressure headache – like my brain is expanding or someone has my head in a vice. I've talked about those headaches in past posts, I call them Red Queen headaches because the Red Queen has a massive head and that's what it feels like.

This past week has been a struggle with fatigue. I'm always tired but the last few days I've been asking myself "is 7pm really to early to go to bed?". My evenings have literally been spent clock watching. I mean, I really should just go to bed when I feel I need to. My body clock is already all over the place so I don't want to mess it up more. Either way I can't win, the end result will always be the same: tired.

I woke up today feeling generally okay, well, as best as I could but things went downhill pretty quickly. I'd say within in an hour or two of waking up I started flaring. This is what I dislike the most about this illness – it changes with no warning, you think "today feels like it's going to be alright" then the next thing you know, you're curled up in a ball on the sofa wondering where your 'alright' day went.

It started with a throbbing pain in my right knee, the throb was accompanied with a sharp pain. Then it quickly went to both elbows, the only pain I really get in my elbows is a sharp pain and the pain travels down my forearm like electric shocks. It's very typical of my knees and elbows to hurt, it's the joints my Lupus affects the most. Pain in my shoulders is less common, but today I had the worst pain in my right shoulder. It was a burning sensation mixed with a sharp pain, it started so suddenly and out of nowhere (like nearly everything this illness throws at you). It was the burning sensation that made it unbearable, fortunately the sensation didn't last long but the sharp pain decided to stay for the day. It's also sending a dull ache down my upper arm. So today, my full right arm has been affected – not so helpful when you're right handed!

I was sitting waiting to see if any of the pain would subside but nope. It wasn't letting up and I couldn't sit in pain any longer so today has been a codeine day, which I'm sure my headache will thank me for later. And by that I mean, I'll probably wake up with a blistering headache tomorrow, what's new? I'm due another dose in an hour and a half and it can't come quick enough. It's helping but not fully, it's just taking the edge off it all.

It still mind boggles me how any part of my body will start hurting, it's as quick as turning on a switch. Some parts of my body hurt briefly, like the soles of my feet but then it'll move to my legs or fingers. Although I'm writing about my joints, because those are the areas that have consistently hurt, nearly my whole body has been affected today. It just gets tiresome when there seems to be no break from pain.

I spent the day curled up on the sofa with
a blanket and my dogs in a codeine haze, having little cat naps and drinking tea…all whilst trying to get my head around the new season of Orphan Black…that's not a show you should watch whilst on codeine.

What a day! There's always tomorrow. As always, thank you for reading xo

The never ending circle of fatigue 

Fatigue is one symptom I struggle with the most, I have days where I think I have it somewhat under control – what I mean by that is I can do more basic daily tasks than I did the previous day. I wanted to do a post covering it, in the best way I can because it’s something I struggle to describe but I’ll try my best. 

Have you ever been so tired that you have thought to yourself “I feel like I could sleep for a week”? That’s how I and millions of Lupus sufferers feel every second of everyday. 

I don’t think people understand the enormity of my fatigue, I’m often advised to take a nap to help me come around. I’m also told that if I do more I won’t feel as tired, but how can an already exhausted person find the energy to do more? My tiredness is not like a ‘normal persons’ tiredness, it feels like I’m drowning but I can’t escape and nobody can pull me from it. It’s not being able to think straight or concentrate on a conversation. It’s being in a foul mood, things annoying you that shouldn’t annoy you. It’s curling into a ball and breaking down because you think you’ve reached a new level of exhaustion: you haven’t, you can sink further. Nothing helps, not sleep, not coffee, not over priced energy drinks and not a special fancy diet. 

You’d think I’d fall asleep at any given point but here’s a twist: insomnia. Yes, you read that right. A girl who is so weighed down by fatigue often struggles with insomnia. It could be pain keeping me awake or I just can’t fall asleep, take last night for example – I didn’t fall asleep until 4am and even then it was broken sleep. 

I think the hardest part about fatigue, like this illness – you can’t see it. People think I just want to lay in but I can’t physically or mentally function on a morning. If I go out wearing make-up, the dark eyes are covered up so people usually think I’m being dramatic and they think I mean I’m a little sleepy but what I actually mean is “I’m so tired I don’t think my legs can physically hold me for 5 more minutes”. However, sometimes you can see it, my complexion becomes very pale apart from my under my eyes, they turn extremely dark. This is when I look very unwell. It’s when you can see something isn’t quite ‘right’ with me. It’s at this point of fatigue I can’t even bare to talk to people, I don’t have the energy to lift my arms up. I don’t move, I stay in a silent ball wrapped up in blankets. 

Fatigue affects every aspect of my life, it causes me to feel nauseous and on numerous occasions I have vomited from being exhausted. I have explained in past posts that every so often I struggle with poor appetite, and that’s because the fatigue (and other symptoms) destroys it. Sometimes I get up and have to rest upon a wall because I think I will faint. I have had to catch myself numerous times to avoid falling. I can be stood for 5 minutes which to me can feel like 5 hours. I will lay on cold tiled floors and find it as comfortable as a bed because I’m exhausted. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve sat on my bathroom floor and just looked at the shower that I need to step into. I sleep for 10 hours straight to wake up feeling as tired as I did when I got into bed the previous night. If I’m the middle of a conversation with you and it looks like I’ve switched off, chances are, I have. Don’t be offended, the same thing happens with the TV and reading. I struggle to concentrate on certain days. 

You have to remember I am fighting my own body everyday and that has to have some affect on my energy levels. I have to work much harder than others to get through my day, even if that looks like nothing at all. 

If you have someone close to you suffering a chronic illness, understand that when they say they are exhausted they truly are. Please don’t get angry if they leave an event early, it has taken so much out of them to be there. Please don’t get upset if they cancel plans or don’t do something you asked them to do. We try, we really do, but sometimes we try too much and it backfires. Patience, sincerity and understanding is all we ask for. 

Tuesday 7th February, 2017. 

Someone needs to give me a lesson in how to stay still whilst in flare. I did some basic jobs in the house today and made myself a lot worse. I guess sometimes I just want to feel like I’ve done something and helped out. It’s hard going from a full time job that’s very fast paced, one job after the other with barley time for a break to well…nothing, absolutely nothing. Everyone else in my house is out working and I feel like they should at least come home to a clean house. I know they wouldn’t bat an eyelid if I didn’t do it, but I just keep doing it. I like to help, that’s my problem. 

Yesterday was a terrible day, my family even said I look really unwell. It has to be a bad day when people can see the invisible illness. I had joint pain, a headache (I’ve actually had a headache for a few days now) and I was exhausted. I was at the point of exhaustion where I was asked if I had taken my strong painkillers that take me off to a different planet. I hadn’t taken any because they induce headaches and I already had that problem. I sprung awake at 1:30am with killer pains in my back/sides. It felt like I was being stabbed repeatedly, I couldn’t lay back down because it made it worse…that’s when I gave in and reached for my strong pain killers. They helped, they took the stabbing pain away but I was left with a throbbing pain. I managed to get back to sleep, probably the pain medication mixing with my exhaustion knocking me straight out. 

Today, isn’t better. I still have the pain in my sides, I keep getting the sharp pain on and off but the throbbing sensation is still there. I still have joint pain and I ache like I’ve just ran the London Marathon. I’m still very much exhausted too. My headache isn’t like my usual headaches, well it sort of is, I get an hour of sharp pain but it’s mostly like a fuzzy head or feels like my brain is swelling…I can’t describe it. In all honesty I feel worse than I did yesterday. 

But oh well, I’ll just go where the tide takes me and wait for it to pass.