The never ending circle of fatigue 

Fatigue is one symptom I struggle with the most, I have days where I think I have it somewhat under control – what I mean by that is I can do more basic daily tasks than I did the previous day. I wanted to do a post covering it, in the best way I can because it’s something I struggle to describe but I’ll try my best. 

Have you ever been so tired that you have thought to yourself “I feel like I could sleep for a week”? That’s how I and millions of Lupus sufferers feel every second of everyday. 

I don’t think people understand the enormity of my fatigue, I’m often advised to take a nap to help me come around. I’m also told that if I do more I won’t feel as tired, but how can an already exhausted person find the energy to do more? My tiredness is not like a ‘normal persons’ tiredness, it feels like I’m drowning but I can’t escape and nobody can pull me from it. It’s not being able to think straight or concentrate on a conversation. It’s being in a foul mood, things annoying you that shouldn’t annoy you. It’s curling into a ball and breaking down because you think you’ve reached a new level of exhaustion: you haven’t, you can sink further. Nothing helps, not sleep, not coffee, not over priced energy drinks and not a special fancy diet. 

You’d think I’d fall asleep at any given point but here’s a twist: insomnia. Yes, you read that right. A girl who is so weighed down by fatigue often struggles with insomnia. It could be pain keeping me awake or I just can’t fall asleep, take last night for example – I didn’t fall asleep until 4am and even then it was broken sleep. 

I think the hardest part about fatigue, like this illness – you can’t see it. People think I just want to lay in but I can’t physically or mentally function on a morning. If I go out wearing make-up, the dark eyes are covered up so people usually think I’m being dramatic and they think I mean I’m a little sleepy but what I actually mean is “I’m so tired I don’t think my legs can physically hold me for 5 more minutes”. However, sometimes you can see it, my complexion becomes very pale apart from my under my eyes, they turn extremely dark. This is when I look very unwell. It’s when you can see something isn’t quite ‘right’ with me. It’s at this point of fatigue I can’t even bare to talk to people, I don’t have the energy to lift my arms up. I don’t move, I stay in a silent ball wrapped up in blankets. 

Fatigue affects every aspect of my life, it causes me to feel nauseous and on numerous occasions I have vomited from being exhausted. I have explained in past posts that every so often I struggle with poor appetite, and that’s because the fatigue (and other symptoms) destroys it. Sometimes I get up and have to rest upon a wall because I think I will faint. I have had to catch myself numerous times to avoid falling. I can be stood for 5 minutes which to me can feel like 5 hours. I will lay on cold tiled floors and find it as comfortable as a bed because I’m exhausted. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve sat on my bathroom floor and just looked at the shower that I need to step into. I sleep for 10 hours straight to wake up feeling as tired as I did when I got into bed the previous night. If I’m the middle of a conversation with you and it looks like I’ve switched off, chances are, I have. Don’t be offended, the same thing happens with the TV and reading. I struggle to concentrate on certain days. 

You have to remember I am fighting my own body everyday and that has to have some affect on my energy levels. I have to work much harder than others to get through my day, even if that looks like nothing at all. 

If you have someone close to you suffering a chronic illness, understand that when they say they are exhausted they truly are. Please don’t get angry if they leave an event early, it has taken so much out of them to be there. Please don’t get upset if they cancel plans or don’t do something you asked them to do. We try, we really do, but sometimes we try too much and it backfires. Patience, sincerity and understanding is all we ask for. 

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